When in doubt… Hug!!!

I want to keep the circumstances private but recently I had a situation where things were out of my control and I was unable to work, eat, sleep or even think straight.

I did receive a tremendous amount of support from friends, family, clients and even strangers!  I can’t begin to tell you how hard it was/is to accept their help but I couldn’t refuse.  I thought that I would chronicle those things here so that if anyone you know is in crisis that there are ways that you can help make their day a little better.  I wanted to make this list for myself so I could pay it forward next time and help brighten someone else’s day.

Here are some of the many thoughtful things that people did for us that meant so much….

  1. HUGS!!!! The longer and tighter the better.
  2. Drop off food and yes healthy food that can be frozen or taken on the run if need be.  (treats are good too 😉
  3. Tea,  buy it, make it, book time to just sit and drink tea with them so they can talk.
  4. A care package:  Soft kleenex, snacks, magazines, blistex, hand cream, advil… you think of it … put it in there! Little messages with the care package even better!
  5. Wine… no hints just saying that sometimes wine is like Tea… it needs to replenish the soul.
  6. Walk the dog… this one was hard to accept but trust in that both Zoe and I appreciated every one!
  7. Walk or run with the friend… take her out for some fresh air to let her just breathe.
  8. Wear something ridiculous (like spotted socks) to make her smile.
  9. Offer to help with their kids, pick ups at school or playdates.
  10. Sit and just shoot the breeze, tell jokes, talk about what is going on in your life… distract them from their worries.
  11. Flowers… again no hints but just know that flowers brighten the room.
  12. Send texts or emails but don’t expect them to respond.

Sometimes life is out of control but it is our friends that keep us Healthy and if not Happy then at least brighten their day xo to all of you that helped and continue to help friends in need.

 

Distractions

Wow, I am behind in my blogs!  My apologies.  First off to update you “Our Crazy Plan” worked out beautifully, we had a perfect weather day and walked 26 miles from Milton to Caledon. Yes we got a little lost (and more then a little grumpy) in Georgetown and walked funny for a week but we did it!

Secondly, we have gone through a few changes which have distracted me from writing my blogs.  Moving into a smaller house, dealing with changing contractors during renovations, and family challenges… all keeping me a wee bit frazzled. These distractions had left me “uninspired” to say the least.

But I am back!  Just like everyone else sometimes life gets in the way and I get derailed. I vow to do better and get back to writing my blogs regularly so stay tuned. The important thing in all of this stress and frustration that I still scheduled my runs and workouts… for me that was key in keeping me sane through all this!

Oh and to those of you that were waiting to see if we opened up a new gym… it does not look likely in the near future.  There is too much competition for a small gym like FIT to make it’s mark and more importantly make a profit.  We will continue to offer personal training, small group training and our FIT challenges.  You can even contact us to run the challenge at your workplace!

Thanks to all for your ongoing support and know that I miss all my FIT folks!

Keep Healthy and Happy

 

Our Crazy Plan

So my daughter has these crazy obsessions…. first she taught herself to draw incredible works of art, taught herself new mediums,  taught herself how to write with her left hand… and one of them this summer is walking long distances.

 

At first my husband and Soleil would walk to Dairy Queen and back (no not the close one) in the evenings.  Then, she came up with this crazy idea that we should walk to my parents in Caledon…. 36 miles away.

I said why not walk home?  It is net downhill as opposed to uphill.  NOPE…she states that is not a “destination” that is home.     So long story shortened (a bit) I agreed to join them to navigate and to keep them company.  I also made a training plan for us.   We are now set on walking a marathon.  Not an official one, but one of our own design. It has involved some logistics… taking an uber to the start in Milton (so it is only 26 miles not 36), dropping a car and clothes at my folks in Caledon, booking friends to watch Lucas while we do this…. lots of planning!

We trained but not the way I would normally for a running marathon… surprisingly when you walk for hours at a time your body starts to break down.  So we have trained a mere HALF of the distance.

Soleil and Dan have never fueled on a walk…. so our Marathon is going to be a huge experiment.  What can they eat while walking that won’t cause tummy troubles or bathroom stops… I am a squirrel and will be munching the whole way with no problem but still this old body does not look forward to walking for 8-9 hours.

Stay tuned to hear how our end of the summer challenge pans out…. and keeping it “REAL”… this is scary and I am really not sure what the day will bring.   I know that all of you will be pulling for us so that will help for sure!

Keep Healthy and Happy

 

Bad Karma

So I consider myself a good person.  I have always thought that you should always look for opportunities to help others and do good things.  I am not saying that there is a higher power but I am saying that I did feel that good people deserved to have good things happen for them.

This summer I feel like I have really done something horrible to upset the Karma apple cart.  I won’t list them all but those who know me have heard some of the struggles that have hit my family in the past three months.

Previously I felt blessed, like I was overly fortunate. I kept saying to my husband… I feel too lucky that we have such a good life.  Well people the tables have turned…

I am trying to keep a sense of humor about it but it is hard as it involves my loved ones.

It just goes to show you that everyone is struggling even if they don’t show you or tell you.  So the next time you see someone acting out of character or they have put on a few pounds or lost a few… just give them a hug and tell them that you are there for them.

Thanks to those of you sending cyber and real hugs.  Hopefully I can turn this Karma bus around to be back in the positive direction soon!

Keep Healthy and Happy

Breaking up is Hard to Do!

When we were closing the gym and selling off the equipment over the last few weeks, people asked me how I was doing and I thought I would feel relieved to have the administrative burden of running a gym (and balancing a very slim spreadsheet).  However, it felt more like a break up.  Yes, I was the “dumper” and not the “dumpee”… since I had initiated it … but it still felt sad and emotional.

But the part I didn’t feel right away until this first week of not seeing my regulars… my friends who have been there for years…. I feel like I broke up with them too 🙁  Now thanks to Facebook we can stay “connected” but it is not the same as having a quick conversation between Burpees 🙂

I am enjoying all the free time… and even shockingly have “slowed down” a bit.  I found myself wandering through Costco instead of powering through to get to my next class etc.  BUT… I miss my gym and I miss my people.

They say everything happens for a reason so I am staying cheerful and looking forward to the future but just so you all know. … I MISS YOU GUYS!  xo xo

New Opportunities

So after 3 Years and 3 Months we are closing the doors at FIT at the end of JUNE 2017.  The reason why?  It is simple…we are not renewing our lease in the current location.  We will however, be holding Bootcamps in the park and Yoga in the park this summer.  Come September we HOPE we will have some space to sublet and offer classes again.

It was hard telling the members and it was even harder having them tell me how sad they were.  We had created a home, a friendly environment where people could work out (for cheap) and feel safe modifying exercises for their body’s needs.

I feel good that we created such a special place and I know that many of our members will be my friends for life.

We will continue to do Personal Training and run the FIT Challenges (and bring them to your workplaces!!!).  However the current schedule will be complete after June 30th.

I am somewhat looking forward to a break in my routine as it has been a long time of teaching the same schedule week in and week out (with my holiday breaks of course), worrying about staffing, spreadsheets, payroll, etc.  I won’t miss those worries!  I am excited now…who knows what this summer will bring?  As a family we have had more then our share of change this year and I am looking forward to what might be around the next corner.

To those that were our members and clients.  Thank you! Thank you for making our space so special and I hope that we will continue to do FIT things together in the future!

Keep Healthy and Happy

 

Your Greatest Treasures

I love my children and treasure every moment with them but all of a sudden we have two teenagers in the house (btw…this photo is 8 years old) and … life is a bit different to say the least.  They won’t pose in photos with us (yet they snapchat and instagram to their heart’s content)… they stay in their rooms with the doors closed, one has a job and one is pursuing a volunteer job for the summer…they sleep all the time!!!   All of a sudden it feels like they don’t need us anymore. It is so hard to not know what is happening with them.  Yes we still have family dinners, yes I love talking with them when they come find me… but it is so different now then just a few months ago.

It is sooo hard.  They are good kids and we are lucky.  But… I wrote recently about “wishing the days away” and I am guilty of continuing to do that… part of me is just holding my breath until they arrive (hopefully healthy and happy) on the other side of teendom.  There is so much out there that wasn’t there when we grew up.  Can you believe that when we were little there were no cell phones, no ipads, no computers for that matter (not til I went to University).  So if you wanted to get in trouble you had to go out and find it on your own two feet.

Now there is so much to worry about!  I don’t want to start a war but I think it would be easier to have boys … maybe because I worry about so much for the girls; making bad choices, teen pregnancy, suffering eating disorders, bullying, smoking, drinking, crime,  peer pressure to do drugs or things that I don’t dare mention in a blog!

How do we get through it?  I will continue to work hard at being there for them and always telling them to make good choices but how much do I wish I could go back to the days where I could get them excited about a walk to the park, going to the zoo, or just blowing bubbles or playing in the yard.   Luckily we still have one small fry at home (and whew he is a boy!)… but I will blink and he will be resisting my hugs and finding his friends after school instead of wanting to play with us.

So if you have small ones at home… hug them tight as long as you can… and if you have teenagers… don’t be afraid to share advice to help us get through this scary time!!!

Keep Healthy and Happy!

 

Stop wishing the days away

I love Pinterest and I love the Motivations that you can find on there.  I encourage my FIT challengers to find motivations on there too.   I saw this one a while back … telling us to RELAX and Master THE DAY and then do that every day.  I didn’t realize how much it hit home until last Sunday when I was running the Burlington Chilly Half Marathon.  You see, I have this habit of planning ahead but for some reason I missed the planning in training for this race. Yes we have lots going on but this is pretty bad when you forget to plan long runs until 10 days before the race when you crank out ONE long run and hope you don’t hurt yourself during the race.

You see the ironic thing is I am a planner….I looooove to plan ahead.  I think this is why this motivation sunk in so deep.  I OFTEN get so caught up in just “getting through this day” and the next and the next to the thing that I am really looking forward to. I feel like I am wishing my life away instead of being “present” as the yogis tell us to be.

So as I struggled with the race on Sunday (normally I love racing) and did my best that I could.  I kept telling myself over and over “master this racethen master this day.  It really helped.  It was a pretty nice day for this race too as normally it is the ugliest day of winter.  (Global Warming?!)

I have the 30 K Around the Bay at the end of the month hanging over my head now too.  I will try to crank out yet one more long run to see how that goes, and if that goes I will try to shuffle through ATB and keep this mindset.

But you know what is very possible?  That I decide to listen to my body/my head/my heart and just find someone to split my race with (it is a relay race as well as a 30 K race). However the important point is that I am going to try and try to Master each Day on it’s own  and stop wishing the days away.

Keep Healthy and Happy!

This is Getting Serious…

I try not to do political posts but I am getting on a BIG Soap Box (reusable;) for this one….We must do more for our planet. I have always considered myself someone who is a fanatical recycler and is conscious of the environment but I recently realized I am not doing enough.

We can’t ignore the changes in our world:  We were away on vacation and every beach had plastics washed up on them.  I recently read this story about a whale that was euthanized because it ingested 30 plastic bags in the Ocean!  And this past warm February was great BUT to me it screams of global warming. We need to take care of our environment and NOW.

  • Yes I practice the three Rs… Reduce Reuse Recycle.  As for the first two I could do a lot more!!!

A few examples of companies and people leading the way…

  • My sister Erin works for a company that creates Pulp Moulded packaging which is made from paper by products.  It is biodegradable packaging that costs only pennies more then plastic. We need to INSIST more companies  purchase and utilize this type of product.
  • Saltwater Brewery has created an edible packaging (from beer by products) instead of a six pack plastic ring to hold it’s cans of beer together.
  • My friend Nina has made a GREEN PLEDGE of not purchasing anything NEW this entire 2017 (unless it is reused or pre-purchased unless it is consumables). Nina is my inspiration when I purchase ANYTHING. She created a facebook group GREEN MUMS and I look to them for ideas and inspiration.

I  am going to do whatever I can to reduce my imprint… yes it is very hard when everything we buy comes in plastic packaging and made for “convenience”.  Trying to eat healthy we take home plastic clamshell containers of raspberries and Blueberries, Plastic containers of salad…

Here is a great website with ideas for all of us to help reduce Global Warming.

Therefore these are the things I have sworn to do from now on:

  1. Buy in Bulk in my own reused plastic bags or my own Glass Jars whenever possible.
  2. Elminate Plastic Water Bottles from my gym (we are offering reusable water bottles for free).
  3. Make conscious purchasing decisions… do I NEED it? or do I just WANT it?  Does it come in complex packaging?
  4. Purchase locally grown food whenever possible (yes often more pricey unfortunately).
  5. Encourage my clients, family and friends to help in the movement and do what we can to make a positive impact on the envivonment.
  6. Look for every opportunity to make a better choice.

Thank you to all of you for jumping on the bandwagon with me and doing what we can!!!

Keep Healthy and Happy and let’s keep our Earth Healthy and Happy too!

 

Trying to stay positive

Normally I blog about setting goals, planning ahead, packing snacks… all positive things.  But sometimes things just don’t work out and we need to figure out how to be happy with those situations too and not let them get away from us.

Last year I had big aspirations for my running races. By this time last year I had already run two races and managed to log another 10 during 2016. (see Photo)

With all that racing in my mind I signed up for a half marathon and then the 30K  Around the Bay (both in March 2017) thinking I would use those as a springboard to run a spring Marathon and who knows where that would then take me….

Here it is almost March 2017… haven’t run a race yet this year….. it is two weeks before the half and I have not trained AT ALL… and the 30 K  ATB seems hopelessly out of reach.   I can’t complain about what has derailed me… travel, deciding to downsize our home, selling and buying a new home, business challenges, and not putting planning into my training.  I have been running yes, but it is more “maintenance” running and not what one needs to do to prepare for long distance running.

I admit I have been glum … it’s the easiest thing to start beating yourself up and feeling like a failure.  However this morning I remembered a “TED Radio Hour” Podcast on Failure I was listening to not so long ago and it had all these great speakers talking about Failure and what it really means.  They had a very positive spin on it… meaning your response to Failure is really what is important. If something isn’t working and you realize it, then you should change what you are doing… makes sense?  They also pointed out that every experiment that was successful came after a series of failures.  They said Failure was an opportunity…

So I am going to take the opportunity to make a plan, yet manage my expectations, do what I can in the next 5 weeks and perhaps…. look for someone to share my bib for ATB and run it as a relay instead of biting off the elephant all at once…   and hopfully keep the negative self talk out of it.  Wish me luck! haha.

Keep Healthy and Happy!